This user dropping a truth bomb.
Snowy; ENTP; they/them
I should come with a warning label.
Currently watching: Soul Eater (#soul eater lb), Shingeki no Kyojin/Attack on Titan (#snk lb)
How when I say I want queer characters who’s story/characterization doesn’t revolve around them being queer I mean that I don’t want gross tropes, I don’t want tragic bullshit, I don’t want othering and nonsense. I was people, I want representation, I want full, fleshed out, valid characters. I want their queerness to be valid and there and not hidden but I don’t want them to be tropes.
But when I hear straight cis folks say they want queer characters who’s story/characterization doesn’t revolve around them being queer mostly what I find out they mean is that they don’t want queerness mentioned, they don’t want it on the page, they want it hidden, they want to pretend straight/cisness. They just don’t want the queer visible.
We can say the exact same thing and mean nearly the opposite.
Yeah, this. And it’s so they can say “it’s just your headcanon, not REAL canon!” when we make characters explicitly queer. They want us to remain invisible just so they can kick us again for making representation in fanworks because we can’t get it in the canon media.
The Melissa Harris-Perry Show was awarded with the Media Momentum Award from the National Center for Transgender Equality for their work in including transgender issues and trans people at the table. I’ve seen more episodes of trans people engaged in discussion on her show than any other show of this genre (or any genre) that I can think of. I like that Melissa Harris-Perry said she views the award as a mandate to do better (versus as cis ally cookies). Here’s part of what she said:
So often trans voices in media are represented as comedic relief or as documentary oddities. Far too often the assumption is that the bodies of trans people are odd and fascinating but that the ideas, passions, goals and analyses of trans people are irrelevant. American media encourages cis viewers to look at trans people, but not to listen. So we hope that we can contribute to undoing that impulse of dehumanizing spectacle and not because of any sense of charitable desire to ‘make life easier’ for trans people. Our desire to make space at the table, to listen to trans men and women is because we know that without a multitude of voices, we get our stories wrong.
We know that if the table is all White or all straight or all male or all cis then we will miss crucial aspects of stories that we care about from incarceration to poverty to sexual assault to international and domestic politics. We bring trans folks to the table because trans people bring needed analysis and perspective with them, and we can’t get the story right if we only talk to cis people. It is as simple as that.
The next thing I would like to see (and me as a cis person; I’m sure a trans person has their own media desires, for which I don’t seek to disregard) is trans people (especially Black and people of colour) hosting shows like this one and more present in daytime/primetime media (network too, not everyone has/can afford cable).
if u propagate this myth that queer people should know what they are from when they’re very young then STOP it’s actually really damaging and the fact people expect us to have a precise account of our feelings on our gender/sexuality so young is really bad
i didnt figure out my feelings on my gender for a long time because i repressed and then once i did figure them out i denied them for almost as long so yea
Now, can we please once and for all acknowledge that TERFs (trans* exclusionary radical feminists) are violent with criminal intent, purposefully harming trans* people either through rhetoric, or, like in this case above, direct, material harm? One of the arguments we hear from TERFs is that they are not violent, they merely “disagree” with trans* people’s existence. As this case exemplifies, this is not the case, Cathy Brennan, aka Bug Brennan on Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, etc, invented lies to have a trans* girl’s access to school facilities removed. She went as far as associating with an anti gay hate group to achieve this.
Next time a TERF demands proof that they are violent (something they are keen on doing when confronted with their awfulness and hatred), just send them this link. Cathy Brennan, one of their loudest representatives will go as far as harassing teens in their school. If that is not a hate crime, I don’t know what it is.
Nope nope nope nope nope
Fuck Cathy Brennan. (via harrrymonster)
Within the United States of America:
- Only 12 states require sex education to be medically accurate.
- Only 19 states require information on condoms and contraception.
- Only 12 states require sexual orientation to be covered. Out of those, only 9 states require it to be inclusive.
- 3 states require only negative information on sexual orientation.
- 22 states are not required to provide information on healthy decision making or on avoiding coercion.
"im not homophobic it’s a children’s series" translated is:
"im not homophobic i just think children, including queer ones themselves, should not be exposed to queer characters bc of those characters queerness, which implies i think there’s something wrong/bad about being queer”
im sorry what about that isnt homophobic/queerphobic as fuck???
THIS IS THE THING
It’s pretty sad and gross that so many people are still judgmental jerks towards others that they do not even know. Don’t worry! There are a lot of resources for you to educate yourself. Here is a brief rundown of some simple things to remember:
1. Gender is fluid. That means that it can, and does change. It can seem like a slow change or a sudden change- or maybe it won’t change at all. It’s one of life’s mysteries! It is none of your business if someone’s gender suddenly shifts. Use the correct pronouns and move on.
2. Gender does not mean conforming to stereotypes. A male or androgynous person can wear dresses or like cute things, and they are still male or androgynous. Someone who identifies as female does not have to like dresses or cute things, and she is still female. Accept their preferences and interests and get over it.
3. If someone you know does not seem to fit into the norm for trans* people, it can be confusing or frustrating. If you think that your friend or acquaintance is just confused and not really the gender they identify as, if you think that they are just going through a phase, or if you believe that they only want attention, follow these simple steps to handle the situation:
- Realize it is none of your business
- Do not talk about how “obviously” fake their identity is
- Use the correct pronouns and let them be happy with their life.
4. If someone you know seems to be confused with their gender, that’s okay. Not everyone can leap out of bed and declare themselves one gender or another and be sure of it. A changing gender and identity can be confusing, and it is perfectly okay to be unsure, to question oneself, and to go back and forth.
5. If a person does not appear to be the gender they identify as, that is also okay. An androgynous person might have a large chest or a large bulge. They are still androgynous, not a he or a she. Please respect them and use their preferred pronoun, not whatever pronoun you assume will work. Gender is not based on appearance, and you should not make assumptions on a person’s gender because of the way that they look.
6. Finally, please remember that no one’s gender is your business but your own. Do not push yourself into someone else’s space to tell them why they are wrong to identify as the gender that they do. Identity is a very personal thing, and you are not “solving” or “fixing” the other person by refusing to use their pronouns and insisting on disrespecting them.
I think that covers the basics! Now that you have a basic understanding, please get on with your life and be a little bit more respectful to people.
i think i am developing a better appreciation for subtextual and metaphorical literary discussions of queerness. and i like the idea of that, i like having a secret history that’s mine alone to unravel. i like learning about maurice sendak and trina schart hyman and howard ashman and how they shared all the things they weren’t allowed to say.
but at the end of the day, at the end of today, metaphors and codes are for people who already know how to read them. and i don’t think they’re sufficient today— i don’t think they’re revolutionary today. i am tired of queerness being a literary discussion held in the corner by people already in the know. i am tired of being told that explicit queerness is not as subversive. i am tired of feeling paratextual, or niche, or unspeakable.
i just think that if i— as a twelve year old baby gay who didn’t know any lgbtq people or that you were allowed to be lgbtq or even that “gay” was a legitimate thing and not just something older kids yelled out bus windows—
if i could have read your book or watched your thing and not noticed that it or its characters were queer, if i could have finished it and still not realized it was about me specifically and still felt alone and confused, that’s not good enough anymore.
"i’m fine with gay people, but i think they shouldn’t flaunt it or make a huge deal out of their sexuality" is straight people talk for "i don’t go out and murder homosexuals but i’m still homophobic enough to not want to have to acknowledge peoples’ sexualities"
"This not a symbol for LGBT Equality
This is a copyrighted logo for a lobbying firm.
The HRC makes money off of this logo
The HRC has a poor track record with Trans*people, LGBT of color non-Democrat LGBT people, LGBT southerners, and LGBT immigrants.
The HRC suppresses activism and delegitimizes activism that doesn’t fall into the purview of standard lobbying.
The HRC compromises on employment discrimination and Social Security partnership benefits for political expedience.
HRC advertising focuses on fit, white, cisgendered males to avoid upsetting non-LGBT peoplewho would be unmoved by anything less than Calvin Klein models in expensive designer clothes.
They brag that their corporate logo has become ‘synonymous with the fight for LGBT Americans” but there are dozens of logosthat are public doman with historical meaning that are inclusive of more than just Americans and the narrow view of what HRC considers ‘LGBT.’
Just use the rainbow. There’s no need to replace what we’ve already had and has worked for over sixty years.”
Today in “What The Literal Hell, Russia?”:
State Duma deputy Alexei Zhuravlev has proposed a bill that would justify LGBT parents losing custody of their children simply because of their sexual orientation. The law had been mentioned as merely a rumor or a “worst case scenario” earlier, but the AP reports that a draft of the bill was posted to Parliament’s website last week.State Duma deputy Alexei Zhuravlev is proposing that like drug use, or child abuse, “nontraditional sexual orientation” would be grounds for parents losing their children. The AP reports that Zhuravlev argues “propaganda” is wrong in public and wrong “in the family.” …"Not surprisingly, some gay and lesbian families are already beginning to plan their escapes from Russia," Fierstein had written in the Times in July, based only speculation a law could be drafted.Not to make this all about the Olympics again, but while millions of people will cheerfully tune in to Sochi next year, thousands of LGBT parents in Russia will be busy trying to protect their families (whether or not this bill ultimately passes — which it hopefully won’t). That’s horrifying.