gaywrites:

So there’s this: God Made Dad & Mom, by Amber Dee Parker, is a new children’s book meant to bash LGBT families in full color. “Endorsed by the American Family Association, God Made Dad & Mom tells the story of a young boy named Michael who prays for his classmate Jimmy and his two dads to learn ‘the truth’ about how God made them after a trip to the zoo where he’s told all animal families ‘consist of a male, a female, and their offspring.’” What a swell contribution to the realm of vitriolic children’s literature, Ms. Parker. (via The Advocate)

sexy-pekingese:

“My daughter Kaitlyn is a wonderful 18-year-old who is not guilty of anything other than a high school romance, but is being prosecuted for 2 felony counts of “lewd and lascivious battery on a child 12—16 years of age,” because she has a girlfriend who is 15.

Kailtyn’s girlfriend’s parents are pressing charges because they are against the same-sex relationship, even though their daughter has stated that this is a consensual relationship. The two girls began dating while Kaitlyn was 17 but her girlfriend’s parents blamed Kailtyn for their daughter’s homosexuality. They waited until after Kaitlyn turned 18 and went to the police to have charges brought against her.

Kaitlyn was a highly respected student at Florida’s Sebastian River High School with good grades and participation in cheerleading, basketball and chorus. She was even voted “most school spirit.” Now she’s been expelled from school and is facing serious felonies - all because she is in love. If convicted, she could end up in jail or live under house arrest, will have to register as a sex offender, and live her life as a convicted felon.

Our family will do everything we can to stop these people from ruining our daughter’s promising life. This is unjust and unfair - and we need your help to stop it.”

Sign the petition -

http://www.change.org/petitions/assistant-state-attorney-brian-workman-stop-the-prosecution-of-an-18-year-old-girl-in-a-same-sex-relationship?utm_source=action_alert&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=25153&alert_id=wdEUrrSBIH_FxPETFRQot

demoncolbert:

okay lemme just

IF YOU MISGENDER SOMEONE, APOLOGIZE. DONT TRY TO JUSTIFY IT. DONT VICTIMIZE YOURSELF. AND DEFINITELY DONT MAKE IT SEEM LIKE THE PERSON YOU MISGENDERED IS AT FAULT. JUST FUCKING APOLOGIZE AND LEAVE THEM ALONE.

content warning: discussion of cissexism/cissexist slurs

redlanternzoom:

SHORT ANSWER: they’re dehumanizing.

MORE IN DEPTH:

genderbender is a term that’s been around for quite a while, and it has a history of being used to fetishize trans* bodies. it assigns the idea of body parts = presentation = gender—i.e. your ‘parts’ and your ‘presentation’ and gender must all match up. which is. ridiculous. since gender and body parts and presentation can all be TOTALLY DIFFERENT. shit does not have to match up!

genderbender has been in use in popular culture! futurama! ranma 1/2 is friggin BUILT off this trope! it was the title of an x-files episode about an alien species that could ~change their body~ (their BODY, so it’s not about gender at all! remember, gender is a societal thing built on roles for men and women, it has fuck all to do with bodies). oh and then the titular alien murdered people. yep. that’s great. it’s not like there’s a history of transgender folk being framed as oversexed rapists/murderers. nope.

(silence of the lambs, for example, is one of the more famous out there, not even getting into all the “transploitation” porn/rape revenge shit out there)

and no, you are not meaning to reference a long history of trans* people being fetishized as she-males and tr*nnies and benders—you just want to draw cute fanart of your fave dude as a lady or your fave lady as a dude! but uh, you are still totally doing that, regardless of intention.

because you are playing into the cissexist notion that body parts = gender = presentation. and that a dude being turned into a lady means he now had breasts and a vagina and wears a dress and goes by she. nvm that hey, he could totally become a she and still wear the exact same damn clothes and have a penis. REVOLUTIONARY. I KNOW.

is there anything wrong with wanting to make a character a different gender? nah, go hogwild! fanfiction and fanart is for exploring stuff, and hey, that includes gender + gender roles. but the problem IS in 99% of ~genderbending~ or ~genderswapping,~ gender, presentation, and body parts are ALWAYS ALWAYS in a set. ie

• GIRLS: have vaginas, boobs, wear dresses, and id as female
• BOYS: have penises, wear pants, and id as men

you will very very rarely find

• GIRLS: have a penis AND a moustache, wear dresses, id as female.
• GIRLS: have a penis, wear pants, and id as female
• GIRLS: have a vagina, wear pants, id as female
• BOYS: have a vagina, wear pants, id as men
• BOYS: have a vagina, wear dresses, id as men
• BOYS: have a penis, wear dresses, id as men
• NONBINARY PEOPLE: ??????????????????? WHAT PEOPLE EXIST OUTSIDE MALE/FEMALE???????????????
• GENDERFLUID PEOPLE: WHAT
• INTERSEX: UH OH YEAH YOU EXIST TOO

genderbending/genderswapping contributes to even more erasure of trans* folk, nonbinary peeps, and also intersex bodies, not to mention! continued fetishization of gender/presentation/bodies that can ~change~ or do not fit in with ~norms~.

and no, rule 63 is not really a better term for this, since it means the exact same thing, but at least it doesn’t give me rage spasms when i see the word (unlike genderbender. yall, that is kinda a slur? let’s not).

so next time you are drawing/writing/exploring this, maybe. keep this in mind and switch it up a bit?

and STOP USING THESE WORDS, like god damn IF YOU WANT TO DRAW. IDK. mulder as a lady and scully as a dude, HOW ABOUT MAYBE JUST PRESENTING IT AS “mulder as a lady” or “scully as a dude” or “dude!scully” OR SOMETHING ELSE that is not inherently gross.

like ACTUAL REAL LIVE GENDERBENDER PERSON HERE

TELLING YOU TO KNOCK IT OFF.

thetrichotomousexploration:

“Eight Things I Don’t Need To Hear From Straight People”

setfabulazerstomaximumcaptain:

esamarimacha:

queeradical:

……not a corporation-sponsored street closing where people buy Absolut and impose Doryphoros-like standards of muscularity on everyone.

and the riot was started by gender-transgressing poor folks of color (many were sex workers too).. not rich white boys appropriating the language/bodies of femmes of color while spending half their day on their smartphones (checking Grindr)

THAT MOTHERFUCKING BOLDED

(Source: swallowtheother)

eddisians:

shatterstag:

ughfandoms-in-general:

at this point i think i’ll just escort myself off this planet.

“WHAT DO YOU MEAN TUMBLR ‘FETISHIZES’ GAY PEOPLE YOU SHOULD BE PROUD AND HAPPY THAT WE’RE SUPPORTING GAY RIGHTS YOU’RE SO IGNORANT” 

[laughs to keep from crying]

i hate the whole world

knowhomo:

LGBTQ* Allies and Support (Super Bowl Style!)

Brendon Ayanbadejo, lineback for the Baltimore Ravens, plans to bring Gay Marriage to the forefront during the Super Bowl.

 Discussed in Washington Times, Fox News, The Examiner, and almost every article discussing the Super Bowl or LGBTQ* Issues/Fights/Allies

Example: 

“Organically, it was going to happen anyway,” said Ayanbadejo a linebacker and key special-teams player in his 10th season, of the inevitable questions to come after his vocal support for upholding a marriage equality law in Maryland in November.

“There (are) still 47 or so states that don’t have it passed. It needs to be passed federally. Why not be the person to carry that message not only to the United States but to the rest of the world? I have this huge platform. The whole world is watching.

“It’s a message of positivity. It’s a message of equality. And it’s a chance to get it out. It’s not going to affect the way I play football but its going to affect a lot of people’s lives off the field.” (source)

unexpectedmoose:

• I identify with the characters. I write about queerness, about queer issues because these are the issues I want my heroes to struggle through and identify with themselves.
• The characters could legit be queer. Queer characters should exist in fiction. Where no backstory is given, then fuck it- I can do anything I want. And the characters can be queer.
• It makes me feel good. See above. When I read or write about queer characters like me, and see other people writing about it- it makes me feel good about myself. It might be only a fantasy bubble- but it’s MY fantasy bubble.
• This translates to how I view my own life. I work out issues my characters face through fantasy and fiction- though thinking and writing and becoming them. Sometimes, they help me work out my own issues!

Things straight women particularly should not do:

• Two guys together are hot, and finding them hot is naturally OK. But don’t be weird about it. Exclusively shipping two guys together is fetishizing and can be draining and frustrating. It’s difficult to explain- but don’t hold gay ships as ‘better’ than straight ships. I mean- I find them ‘better’ for reasons highlighted about, but when a straight gal does it… shit’s different.
• These are real issues. You’re not queer, and though writing fluff and AUs where ~nothing is wrong~ with being queer, remember that people live it. I live it, and the characters that I write live it. They’re not all going to be comfortable with their sexuality, and not all characters they interact with will be. Be mindful. 
• Listen to queer voices. To write well- you need to get info about it- so why not consult queer men; plenty of articles exist to help you with any part of your fic if you’re not a queer man!
• ANAL SEX. (You need so much fucking lube it’s unreal). 
• Shipping two guys together for just hotness. It makes me sad. Queer men come in a lot of different body shapes and varieties and colours and ages and abilities and textures. Shipping two guys together cause they’re just conventionally and stereotypically hot together can also be fetishizing. Branch out. Realize some mindsets might be problematic when you’re shipping. Learn to challenge ideals of beauty.

(Source: facethatdamnmusic)

(Source: thebeesandthebees)

boyprincessdiaries:

can all us queer and/or trans* muslims on tumblr get together weekly or even monthly to chat? we could even hold our own makeshift worship service. i end up shying away from masjid a lot because i feel judged for being queer and i really need to feel some queer muslim community in a more immediate way than just catching your posts on tumblr occasionally. maybe if any of us are imams or would like to be imams, we could throw together something for the group. if not, we could just talk about our spirituality and what islam means to us.

please boost this even if you aren’t muslim to help us spread the word and message me to let me know if this is an idea you’d be interested in helping to organize. you don’t necessarily have to be queer and/or trans* to get involved, but you do have to be a progressive Muslim who believes in equality.

(Source: theboyprincessdiaries)

likeicouldnttakeyou:

The text of this bill says: “A health facility may assert as a matter of conscience an objection to participating in a health care service and may decline to participate in a health care service that violates its conscience pursuant to this section.”  Health care providers are already allowed to refuse to offer abortions in Michigan, but this could also allow them to further restrict reproductive rights.  It could also hurt LGBT Michiganders needing care.

(Source: think-progress)

truth-has-a-liberal-bias:

We all recognize the tough job schools face in creating a nurturing education environment for their pupils. We also understand that appropriate discipline is vital to fostering a fair and respectful climate within schools — however, sometimes schools go too far.

This article looks at five recent news stories ranging from the ill-judged to the outrageous about when school discipline goes terribly wrong.

1) Using same-sex hand-holding as a punishment — Two male students caught fighting at Westwood High in Mesa, Arizona, were told they could either face suspension or hold hands for 15 minutes in the school courtyard. They chose the latter.

The two unnamed high school kids were then pictured shielding their faces during this punishment as a group of kids taunted them with anti-gay language. The punishment provoked an angry reaction from some at the school who said it was reinforcing negative attitudes about being gay by making same-sex contact into a punishment. […]

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