when het girls talk about getting mistaken for lesbians, which sometimes might have made them targets of some misplaced lesbophobia, their attitude always seems to be “i’m straight, i didn’t deserve it!”
like wow thanks for the support
this is exactly why ~reverse oppression~ awareness-raising campaigns like love is all you need don’t work
this is why a straight dude who says he might perhaps one day be attracted to another guy is hero-worshipped by other ~open-minded~ straights
this is why hets think that two straight people of the same sex kissing for ~gay rights~ is great activism but real lesbians are gross
this is why obnoxious allies keep telling us that we need them: they know straight people lack sympathy
everything needs to be about them
straight girls make the best lesbians, straight allies make the best activists, and only straight people’s experiences of homophobia matter
Eli Clare, “Stolen Bodies, Reclaimed Bodies” (via genderqueer)
Trauma is always embodied. Oppression is traumatic. Therefore oppression is embodied.
lesbian pulp fiction was huuuuuuuge cottage industry during the 1950s, 1960s - know your history, know that same-gender women existed before Stonewall and all that
but the novels wouldn’t be published unless, very explicitly and in text a woman DIED or was sent to an asylum because that was what loving another woman did. you deserved that punishment.
and like, can you imagine the lesbians of the 1950s, of the 1960s and this is literally the only available depiction they can see of themselves. because women who loved women bought these novels, desperate for connection.
and people kept writing us dying.
I swear to god, if people found a way to blame lesbians for global warming, they would.
Are strap ons made from recycled materials? I await articles blaming global warming on the lesbian strap on sales (obviously only lesbians buy them)*
*i’m being sarcastic
not being attracted to men is basically one of the most egregious acts a woman can commit
Reblogging for the truth of that last comment.
I think lots of people overlook that last thing when they talk about homophobia and prejudice against gay people. They think that because a lot of men are into the girl-on-girl thing, lesbians have it easier in society than gay men. I’ve seen this opinion expressed again and again. That lesbians are more accepted because we are fetishized. This shows such a big failure in understanding the ways lesbians are targeted for hate. Most of these men who “like” lesbians, don’t even consider lesbians to be women who aren’t into men. The message that most straight people get is that all non-straight women are sexually fluid.
Lesbophobia is dual in nature. It’s not only hatred for women who are attracted to women. It’s also hatred for women who are not attracted to men. There are many people who don’t have a problem in general with women liking women, but have a problem with women not liking men. There are many people that deny even the existence of women who are not attracted to men, unfortunately even in the lgbt community.
It really is one of the most egregious acts a woman can commit and one of the greatest gender non-conformities. And it’s not something that people talk about when they analyze homophobia and anti-gay attitudes because it doesn’t work exactly the same way as homophobia against gay men. It’s also not something people talk about in feminist discussions because it doesn’t revolve around straight women. We need to start talking about lesbophobia specifically to adress how misogyny and homophobia can affect one another and create bigotry that directly targets and hurts lesbians.
I’ve gotten into actual fights with feminists irl about how feminism is not about equality and they look at me with a blank stare like I said something blasphemous but like who are you trying to be equal to?? The white man?? Which is considered top of the western patriarchal imperialist white supremacist tier like if your movement is solely dedicated to just catching up to that false hierarchy instead of completely dismantling it then what you’re doing is useless
This is why I never fully identified with the first and second wave feminists because they weren’t fighting for all of us their goal was to be equal to white men. Susan b Anthony said she would cut off her arm before black ppl got the right to vote Betty Friedan was a racist homophobic piece of trash Gloria Steinem said a lot of transphobic things like these women fought for themselves and people like themselves so they can EQUALLY share status
That’s why the word equality in regards to feminism disgusts me
- is sexist
- is heteronormative
- commodifies sex
- commodifies young cis-het white women
- contributes to rape culture
- contributes to slut-shaming
- erases queer folk
- erases transfolk
- frames a woman’s worth as inversely proportional to the number of dicks that have been inside her
can i just reiterate for absolute clarity, IT HAS NO PHYSICAL OR SCIENTIFIC BASIS. virginity is exclusively a social construct. there is not even a minute difference between a person’s body before and after any form of sexual intercourse. if the hymen was damaged during penetration of a vagina, it heals within days and returns to its former state of partially or mostly covering the vaginal orifice in order to protect the delicate inner balance of the vagina. both the hymen and the rectum become more flexible after several sessions of penetration with appropriate foreplay (please don’t skip that part or they’ll only tear, heal and scar), but that’s not a single cherry-popping moment, that’s exercising the tissue over time.
so when people say “virginity is a social construct”, what they mean is that you are literally making up a physical event that does not happen in order to perpetuate a misogynist, racist*, transphobic and utterly disgusting narrative. which you fucking shouldn’t.
*”how is virginity racist?” did you know that a lot of writers throughout history have suggested that women of colour cannot physically be virgins because virginity is believed to be a state of purity and people of colour can’t be “pure”. also, many native cultures had no concept of virginity, believing sexual play among children is healthy, and they had their cultural practices attacked and their children taken away for this belief. this is one of the core issues that lead to the stolen generation in australia, because white invaders believed that allowing children to explore sex and sexuality makes them ineligible for marriage and “proper” christianity, so aboriginal children were taken from their families and culture, and still were awarded a lower social status than white children. these are only two examples of extremely recent practices wherein white supremacy has wielded the idea of virginity as a weapon of racism, not just to oppress people of colour but to try and utterly destroy their cultural practices and heritage.
"im not homophobic it’s a children’s series" translated is:
"im not homophobic i just think children, including queer ones themselves, should not be exposed to queer characters bc of those characters queerness, which implies i think there’s something wrong/bad about being queer”
im sorry what about that isnt homophobic/queerphobic as fuck???
THIS IS THE THING
i’m so fucking sick of “fandom studies” on slash/ slash culture that focuses on “women exploring their sexuality” without talking about whiteness, queerness, race and mental illness like fucking hell i’m tired of the toxicity of white slash fandom, its blatant racism, misogyny and queerphobia and invasive, abusive behavior being glossed over like can we please fucking stop babying slash fans and actually have a real goddamn conversation
"i’m fine with gay people, but i think they shouldn’t flaunt it or make a huge deal out of their sexuality" is straight people talk for "i don’t go out and murder homosexuals but i’m still homophobic enough to not want to have to acknowledge peoples’ sexualities"
also a general fandom comment if you shit on people’s queer/trans* headcanons for characters by saying that you want to “spare them the pain we undergo as queer/trans* people why would you wish that on a poor character” then you are a USDA prime piece of shit
Today in “What The Literal Hell, Russia?”:
State Duma deputy Alexei Zhuravlev has proposed a bill that would justify LGBT parents losing custody of their children simply because of their sexual orientation. The law had been mentioned as merely a rumor or a “worst case scenario” earlier, but the AP reports that a draft of the bill was posted to Parliament’s website last week.State Duma deputy Alexei Zhuravlev is proposing that like drug use, or child abuse, “nontraditional sexual orientation” would be grounds for parents losing their children. The AP reports that Zhuravlev argues “propaganda” is wrong in public and wrong “in the family.” …"Not surprisingly, some gay and lesbian families are already beginning to plan their escapes from Russia," Fierstein had written in the Times in July, based only speculation a law could be drafted.Not to make this all about the Olympics again, but while millions of people will cheerfully tune in to Sochi next year, thousands of LGBT parents in Russia will be busy trying to protect their families (whether or not this bill ultimately passes — which it hopefully won’t). That’s horrifying.
Russian gay activist Nikolai Alexeyev’s home was among the latest to be raided by prosecutors.
hello yes i’d like to know what the everloving fuck is going on and how this is degenerating so fast
The International Olympic Committee says it plans to stop any athlete from showing support of LGBT Russians at the Sochi Winter Games, reports Gay Star News.
SO NOT ONLY ARE GAY ATHLETES POSSIBLY GOING TO BE JAILED AND FINED AND DEPORTED
BUT THEY’RE BEING FUCKED OVER BY THE IOC AS WELL
IF THEY SHOW ANY SUPPORT OF ANY KIND FOR LGBT PEOPLE AT ALL THEN THEIR ACCREDITATION CAN BE REMOVED
EVEN IF THEY’RE FUCKING LGBT THEMSELVES