Patriarchy backfiring on men is not sexism against men.
Snowy; ENTP; they/them
I should come with a warning label.
Currently watching: Soul Eater (#soul eater lb), Shingeki no Kyojin/Attack on Titan (#snk lb)
the thing is though i dont think i’ve ever met a single dude who genuinely made an effort not to be misogynistic but still actually takes offense when a woman says “urg, men”
and pretty much every white person who is able to recognise and unpack their privilege gets what i mean when i say “urg, white people”
and straight people who are legit supporters do not get huffy when i say “urg, straight people”
and like im cis, but when trans people say “urg, cis people” im not horribly wounded
because when you’re aware of the system you also understand that it’s not about you
and i understand that nobody hates me for being cis, they hate the power that i have over them because im cis (or light-skinned, or able-bodied, etc)
like remember that quote that was like “no, i didn’t say all white people, but since that’s what you took away from it, yes, all white people”? pretty much, the more angry and confrontational you are about blanket comments, the more those comments are directed at you
which makes them a really convenient and effective thing
His body isn’t even cold yet and the New York times has already put out a shameful article declaring Nelson Mandela to be an “icon of peaceful resistance”. News outlets around the Western world are hurrying to publish obituaries that celebrate his electoral victory while erasing the protracted and fierce guerrilla struggle that he and his party were forced to fight in order to make that victory possible. Don’t let racist, imperialist liberalism co-opt the legacy of another radical. Nelson Mandela used peaceful means when he could, and violent means when he couldn’t. For this, during his life they called him a terrorist, and after his death they’ll call him a pacifist — all to neutralize the revolutionary potential of his legacy, and the lessons to be drawn from it.
Don’t fucking let them.
“Gandhi remained committed to nonviolence; I followed the Gandhian strategy for as long as I could, but then there came a point in our struggle when the brute force of the oppressor could no longer be countered through passive resistance alone. We founded Umkhonto we Sizwe and added a military dimension to our struggle. Even then, we chose sabotage because it did not involve the loss of life, and it offered the best hope for future race relations. Militant action became part of the African agenda officially supported by the Organization of African Unity (O.A.U.) following my address to the Pan-African Freedom Movement of East and Central Africa (PAFMECA) in 1962, in which I stated, “Force is the only language the imperialists can hear, and no country became free without some sort of violence.”
-The Sacred Warrior, 1999.
Whispers into your ear
until we have a lesbian princess (and preferably more than one) creating a princess whose sexuality doesn’t matter will have no impact because people will assume she’s straight and argue violently against people who say she might be otherwise because straight is the norm and textual evidence is still seen as necessary for reading a character as anything other than straight or cis
ally brain death occurs when you tell yourself that you are anti-harm (racism, sexism, ableism, transphobia, homophobia, abuse, systems that enforce poverty and suffering) and then make the logical jump to the idea that you are “with the good guys” and “against the bad guys” and then you stop actively questioning your own behavior, resolving that your actions and attitudes can’t possibly be harmful because you’re with the good guys. you then refuse requests to modify your behavior and take them as personal insults because you are “with the good guys”
but there are no “good guys”. there are only good actions and decisions.
1) thank you! 2) GOSH BIG QUESTIONS MONDAY!!!!!!!
so agency is basically the capacity or space to do shit— meaning, power or authority to act and to make one’s own decisions within a story or situation.
for female characters, agency is a big deal because female characters often spend a lot of time being very passive and are acted upon, rather than acting themselves. and if we wanna stroll through i guess the predominant progression of shit, like, in your very traditional sort of folktale, you have a prince or knight or whatever who goes off to rescue a princess in a tower and her role is essentially first to be imprisoned and then to be rescued, after which she is married off to the prince. and we don’t get any of her motives or desires or fears or decisions— she does not make any decisions except for saying yes to the male hero as is expected, nigh demanded by the narrative. and this is a very dominant idea of feminine oppression which dogs feminist discourse— like, we spend most of our time talking about this particular idea of oppression, but only select thin ‘beautiful’ white straight cis women actually get to be princesses in the tower, and that is a form of exclusion and oppression both, but it is also a sort of value and priority which is only given to them, whereas most women are not valued or do not exist either in the stories or in discourse about them.
so then you have, sort of in reaction to the tower narrative, a bunch of stories like I’M NOT A PRINCESS MOTHERFUCKER where the (strong (white straight cis) female character) runs around with a sword or something and goes on an adventure. and those also often have negotiated agency— like, if you look at the hunger games, katniss, who seems like an incredibly powerful character and who does do a ton of shit, also has increasingly fewer choices to make as the series progresses. she’s pushed along by the action and is iirc totally unconscious for most of the climax of the book. i mean that the ways we’ve been taught to think about women’s behavior and choices and role in stories is so much broader and more intricate than just like, does she appear to be physically doing things— but rather, is her perspective respected, are her opinions undervalued or demeaned by the narrative voice, is she given the space to make her own judgments and decisions, does she want things, is she able to get them for herself, is she able to analyze and deal with her own problems herself, do we get to listen to her talk
there’s this SORRY POLITICAL THEORY DORK there’s this idea about positive and negative liberty, such that negative liberty is the absence of limitations and positive liberty is the ability to move within that space— like, even if abortion is legal (negative), if you don’t have an affordable close clinic, or if you have a domestic situation that does not permit you to go to it (positive), you still do not have the liberty to have an abortion
which i mention because i think people writing female characters often super fuck up on positive liberty, like yeah she appears to be able to do all of these things, to go to all of these places, but does she actually have any genuine power or authority in her circumstance or over herself?
so then strong female characters are you know, all kinds of fucked up because people writing them are still almost entirely reacting to this very focalized idea of female oppression and so they are writing characters that are revolutionary or progressive only according to the most widely discussed oppressive tool— the tower— which is the most widely discussed bcs it is about the most privileged women. and so now we have a lot of ideas about what makes women strong and we have a lot of thin beautiful (and yet generally convinced that they are not) white straight cis women you know, holding guns and not being princesses, and yet we do not attend to whether even they have genuine agency
and agency is so complicated!!!! like if you look at even twilight, bella spends most of her time being shepherded and bossed around by various incredibly abusive men who are romantically interested in her, but then she also is able to negotiate for what she wants and gets it, even if what she wants is a very traditionally conservative, constrained lifestyle. so you have both bella claiming her fetus and refusing to let anyone destroy her fetus and bella incapable of doing literally anything until she is turned into a vampire. which is also what she wants. like, shit is complicated, for vampires, i guess.
i don’t know, i’m more about new original female characters, and complex flawed interesting female characters who are wholly their own, and female characters who get what they want because they take it, and female characters who are given genuine narrative space and respect, and female characters who challenge societal expectations and demands which have not yet been explored, oppressions beyond just some girls being princesses because like really
I’M NOT A PRINCESS MOTHERFUCKER is not longer a useful or revolutionary thesis
As some of you know, a post I made a few months ago has been viral for the last couple weeks, and as it usually happens with viral posts on tumblr, it ended up on Facebook, on a very nice page called Welcome to the Internet.
I could sit here and complain how a post I made that was meant to be only for the enjoyment of the very few followers I had at the time went viral and put me on the spotlight, specially since said post has a selfie on it (and a very unflattering one too) but this whole thing isn’t even about my privacy being completely violated.
However, I decided to report the post. I reported it and emailed Facebook about when when I received no answer and got absolute nothing back from them. The same happened with another page, Silly Likes, which also published my post. At first this was about me trying to avoid an awful situation in which my in real life friends found my blog, which is heavily charged with anime and just stuff I have no interest on them knowing about me. You know, usual tumblr stuff.
But then I ventured inside the comments section and found a pleasant surprise!!!!! Let’s get started, shall we?
And let’s not forget Avedis K. Keshishian who definitely thought his opinion was very in order and absolutely necessary to point out.
I decided to report these comments and I was absolutely convinced Facebook would take care of it and delete them for my mental well-being.
I reported them under “harassment” and this time I did hear back from them!! Hallelujah!! Except… OH!
Thank you for taking the time to report something that you feel may violate our Community Standards. Reports like yours are an important part of making Facebook a safe and welcoming environment. We reviewed the comment you reported for harassment and found it doesn’t violate our Community Standards.
I’d like to point out this is the response I got 10 times for the 10 messages I reported that included the word rape in it. Let that sink in for a second.
There were 10 human beings who straight up admitted to wanting to rape me and when I tried to do something about this, Facebook told me I was wrong. This isn’t harassment, this doesn’t violate their community standards.
What pisses me off about this entire thing is not even that I got these upsetting comments. That’s not at all what bothers me, I’ve already been sexually abused and humiliated, these comments are nothing compared to the stuff I have to life with for the rest of my life. What really angers me is that this is now an acceptable behaviour. This is okay. These are socially acceptable comments and not even a website such a Facebook, who should be a little more concerned about the safety of their community, cares about the ones affected by these words.
Anyways, I would just really appreciate it if you could take a few minutes of your day to report these users, who definitely don’t deserve a bit of sympathy.
allies who are so shocked by the “rude” behavior of the online queer and trans* community and try to back it up with “but all my irl trans*/queer friends are so NICE TO ME!!1!!” well i hate to break it to ya, they ain’t being nice, they’re fucking scared of you and they know your “support” is so fucking flimsy you’ll turn your back on them in a hot second if they say anything.