randomlygeeky:

stevesmithis:

nudityandnerdery:

thegood-morrow:

arewhedonyet:

Game of Thrones ranks somewhere on the Girl Dislike scale between NASCAR and that National Geographic show where the guy sticks his hand in a catfish’s mouth. If you’re clueless as to why she’s intent on harshing your TV buzz, here are some telltale clues.

“It’s hard to follow.”  Because obviously women aren’t capable of such complex thought.  What a ridiculous article.  The entire premise is deeply flawed since just as many women as men watch the show (if not more).

Stupid stupid

“It reminds us of the kids that used to play magic cards in the cafeteria.” And there’s nothing ladies hate more than being reminded of nerds in high school, am I right? All the ladies hate that sort of thing. (I don’t know how to break this news to all the kickass ladies I know who possibly were the sort of person who played Magic in the cafeteria in high school…)

Um, I know girls who aren’t in to fantasy who love this show almost as much as I do. Hell, the women in my life, in general, are as passionate, if not more passionate, about ASOIAF than I am. What a load of shit.

Oh fuck this article!

“Here’s how to convince her to give it a little Sunday night love: … Tell her about Sir Loras. Girls love gay guys.”

is this a joke

sexistfacebookdudes:

facebooksexism:

maddietheninja:

reedus-our-rights:

facebooksexism:

From the email I received: I didn’t even have the heart to go through the comments again, because just reading this and some of the people agreeing made me physically ill. Suffice it to say that several women spoke up about how this qualifies as domestic abuse, rape and other unacceptable things, and several MORE men made fun of the “radical feminists” and said that “in a relationship, people have to do things they don’t want to do, etc. etc.” I think the icing on the cake was when someone commented with “Im feminist and think this post is Completely accurate. Sure youre entitled to say no, but you should realize you do things, physically emotionally or materialistically, for your boyfriend.”

This kind of shit is totally mainstream and socially accepted (24 likes, y’all) and yet men get all shitty when women fear them as potential rapists.

A great example of why I will forever advocate for and enthusiastic consent model of sex education. But no, instead of things that could do good (like actually dismantle rape culture) American sex education includes shit like slut shaming and misinformation about contraception.

I have to rant about this because this is one of the things that pisses me off the most about men and relationships and is the reason why I primarily choose to stay single (not that anyone would want to date me, but that’s another story). Men often times are taught that the only time you should ever be nice to a girl is when you want her to suck your dick. The only time you should treat your woman like a queen by taking her out, buying her nice things, listening to her problems, or being there for her when she needs you is that you sincerely hope she’ll let you give her the D. THAT is what society is teaching boys! That is what we’re lead to believe! That women are not worth more than a fuck and if they don’t let you fuck them, then you shouldn’t treat them nicely! People who agree with the statement above should take a step back and review their life choices. Also, he’s is valiantly misinterpreting the concept of partners being equal and doing something they may not enjoy for the sake of their partner’s happiness. That is a common misconception. You should never force someone to go to a hockey game if they don’t like hockey. You should never make someone watch cheesy romantic films if you know it’s going to bore the hell out them. If they’re cool with doing stuff they don’t like just because they enjoy spending time with you, awesome, but you shouldn’t ever force someone to do something they don’t want to do just because “you’re in a relationship!” And that doesn’t constitute being a supportive ear for your partner! If you love someone, you REALLY FUCKING love them, you don’t care if they spend all day crying and complaining about something! You will make sure you are there to cheer them up in any way you fucking can, but if you’re only listening to your girlfriend’s problems in hopes that after she’s done bitching, she’ll take her pants off, then you need to fall back somewhere and she needs to leave your loser ass! This guy is literally the reason I don’t trust guys and I don’t want to date them. This status right here is just further proving my point that if we continue with all of this misogyny and allow people to behave in this way, we’re always going to be held back and abused by men! Fuck this guy and fuck all those people who think that this status is in any way correct. And I hope if this dude ever gets in a relationship, his girl sees this status and walks out on him. He’s a piece of shit who needs to get his act together. Fucker.

Women don’t owe men access to their vaginas. They have to earn that shit!

This post just angered me! Seriously if the guy wants sex then give him sex! It’s a good point, he doesn’t feel like doing crap for you all the time, but he does because e loves you, so u should give him what makes him happy because he loves you and you love him! I get so annoyed when girls flip out about how their boyfriend wants to have sex, I mean if you are a minor, it’s different, but I you are an adult, act like one and show your man that you care, just like he shows you tht he cares

^Am I reading a 1950s advice column for women? What a sad state of affairs when people are still recommending a “grin and bear it” approach in 2013.

Listen people, you should NEVER have to have sex because of coercion, obligation, or pressure. THAT IS A PROBLEM.

Again, from the comments, just pointing out not all women have vaginas/everyone with a vagina isn’t a woman. Vice versa men and dicks.

This vile rapist fb post is awful. Cissexism is awful. We need to do away with it all.

screamed-the-dustspeck:

Nicki Minaj casually dismantles sexism while applying her eyeliner

This was, legitimately, my very first impression of Nicki Minaj. And this is the reason why, to this day, I have the utmost respect for her, even though I don’t like all of her music.

(Source: upworthy.com)

offthemonster:

As a woman and a sports fan, this is literally one of my biggest pet peeves in life: the misogynistic, paternalistic, arrogant, and dismissive ways that women sports fans are treated by many men. And not just men who are sports fans, but any guy off the street, seeing me in my team’s logo, thinks it’s his right to quiz me on stats and player names, in the hope of tricking me into revealing that I’m not a TRUE fan, but a bandwagoner only in it for the attractive athletes.

This above photo is a fantastic example. Not that I expect much from CollegeHumor, but this juxtaposition is gross. For starters, they’re trying to decide on the “Best Kind of FOOTBALL Fan,” and they’ve got Jonah Hill’s character from Moneyball as the “Sports Nerd,” which is okay I guess, except MONEYBALL IS A BASEBALL MOVIE.

I also have to seriously wonder if the woman they so patronizingly label as “Princess Bittercup” agreed to have her photo disseminated in this manner? And as for the pink - who cares? I personally don’t own any pink sports attire, but I might buy some just to piss off assholes like whoever wrote that caption. Nobody knows why that woman chose pink: maybe she’s a breast cancer survivor, or maybe she just fucking likes pink (it’s not like the Dolphins’s colors of orange and turquoise are fucking beautiful). No one ever sees a guy in an alternate jersey color (like camo, or black-on-black) and assumes he’s somehow lesser.

I’m tired of having to prove to men that I’m a “real” sports fan, just because of my gender. I’m tired of reading the BOSTON FUCKING GLOBE and seeing columnists refer derisively to “Pink Hats” as a blanket term for bandwagon fans, and having to pretend that it’s not obvious misogyny, a petulant reaction to women invading their boys’ club. But most of all, I’m tired of men thinking that they have ANY RIGHT to judge whether my fandom is legitimate. WHO CARES if I find some players attractive? Guess what? I don’t spend all day lasciviously describing all the things I want to do to them - unlike half the men I watch sports on TV with who spend most of the game objectifying the sideline reporter.

downlo:

zillah975:

last-snowfall:

fuckyeahscifiwomenofcolour:

The bolded sections represent quotes from the criticism he received. All the z-snaps are in order.

Your characters are unrealistic stereotpyes of political correctness. Is it really necessary for the sake of popular sensibilities to have in a fantasy what we have in the real world? I read fantasy to get away from politically correct cliches. 

God, yes! If there’s one thing fantasy is just crawling with these days it’s widowed black middle-aged pirate moms. 

Real sea pirates could not be controlled by women, they were vicous rapits and murderers and I am sorry to say it was a man’s world. It is unrealistic wish fulfilment for you and your readers to have so many female pirates, especially if you want to be politically correct about it!

First, I will pretend that your last sentence makes sense because it will save us all time. Second, now you’re pissing me off. 

You know what? Yeah, Zamira Drakasha, middle-aged pirate mother of two, is a wish-fulfillment fantasy. I realized this as she was evolving on the page, and you know what? I fucking embrace it. 

Why shouldn’t middle-aged mothers get a wish-fulfillment character, you sad little bigot? Everyone else does. H.L. Mencken once wrote that “Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats.” I can’t think of anyone to whom that applies more than my own mom, and the mothers on my friends list, with the incredible demands on time and spirit they face in their efforts to raise their kids, preserve their families, and save their own identity/sanity into the bargain. 

Shit yes, Zamira Drakasha, leaping across the gap between burning ships with twin sabers in hand to kick in some fucking heads and sail off into the sunset with her toddlers in her arms and a hold full of plundered goods, is a wish-fulfillment fantasy from hell. I offer her up on a silver platter with a fucking bow on top; I hope she amuses and delights. In my fictional world, opportunities for butt-kicking do not cease merely because one isn’t a beautiful teenager or a muscle-wrapped font of testosterone. In my fictional universe, the main characters are a fat ugly guy and a skinny forgettable guy, with a supporting cast that includes “SBF, 41, nonsmoker, 2 children, buccaneer of no fixed abode, seeks unescorted merchant for light boarding, heavy plunder.”

You don’t like it? Don’t buy my books. Get your own fictional universe. Your cabbage-water vision of worldbuilding bores me to tears. 

As for the “man’s world” thing, religious sentiments and gender prejudices flow differently in this fictional world. Women are regarded as luckier, better sailors than men. It’s regarded as folly for a ship to put to sea without at least one female officer; there are several all-female naval military traditions dating back centuries, and Drakasha comes from one of them. As for claims to “realism,” your complaint is of a kind with those from bigoted hand-wringers who whine that women can’t possibly fly combat aircraft, command naval vessels, serve in infantry actions, work as firefighters, police officers, etc. despite the fact that they do all of those things— and are, for a certainty, doing them all somewhere at this very minute. Tell me that a fit fortyish woman with 25+ years of experience at sea and several decades of live bladefighting practice under her belt isn’t a threat when she runs across the deck toward you, and I’ll tell you something in return— you’re gonna die of stab wounds.

What you’re really complaining about isn’t the fact that my fiction violates some objective “reality,” but rather that it impinges upon your sad, dull little conception of how the world works. I’m not beholden to the confirmation of your prejudices; to be perfectly frank, the prospect of confining the female characters in my story to placid, helpless secondary places in the narrative is so goddamn boring that I would rather not write at all. I’m not writing history, I’m writing speculative fiction. Nobody’s going to force you to buy it. Conversely, you’re cracked if you think you can persuade me not to write about what amuses and excites me in deference to your vision, because your vision fucking sucks.

I do not expect to change your mind but i hope that you will at least consider that I and others will not be buying your work because of these issues. I have been reading science fiction and fantasy for years and i know that I speak for a great many people. I hope you might stop to think about the sales you will lose because you want to bring your political corectness and foul language into fantasy. if we wanted those things we could go to the movies. Think about this! 

Thank you for your sentiments. I offer you in exchange this engraved invitation to go piss up a hill, suitable for framing.

Dude. I bounced off his first book in that series, but that character MIGHT just convince me to give it another try.

Also, Anne Bonny, Mary Read, Ching Shih, the Red Lady, Lai Sho Sz’en, Grace O’Malley, Sayyida al Hurra, the Lioness of Brittany, Mary Killigrew, Lo Hon-cho, and quite a few others.

LADY PIRATES REPRESENT.

This guy is such a patriarchal bigot that he actually wrote to Scott Lynch because he thinks all fictional worlds should be sexist and racist too. Lynch’s response was perfect.

adventuresofcomicbookgirl:

If it had diverged from the manga and been half as/equally as good- I woulda been fine

for example- I like both the Sailor Moon anime and manga! Even if I didn’t agree with all the decisions the anime made I still love it! So obvs I don’t see adaptations as having to be accurate and sacred.

I dislike it because I found the changes it made to be problematic, especially in comparison to the manga. On a storytelling level (plotholes abound) a character level (consistent character development whats that and fuck if I wanna watch fma just for Ed and Al’s self-centered angstfest, other characters pls) and very important to me, on a gender and race level (having Rose raped and vicitimized so she could be used as a plot device being the tip of the iceberg, the complete sidelining of the Ishvalan narrative and making it so Roy only feels guilty over killing white people, presenting crossdressing as either a sign someone is mentally disturbed or as something serial killers do) I have a right to do this and I wish people would stop dismissing that. I have no problem with anyone liking it, but I have a right not to and not be seen as “intolerant” or whatevs.

And if everyone would stop acting like militant 2003 fans are the constant victims and none of them never jump down people like me’s throat for daring to point this stuff out and for having a personal dislike that’d be gr8?

nova-bright:

nova-bright:

i hate

every piece of media

that devalues, denies, destroys and/or never even attempts female friendship

seriously

if its a story about dudes, fine whatever i don’t mind, i consume plenty of male heavy media

but if there are female characters and they exist only to compete for men, or as props

i don’t want to have any thing to do with it

honestly, while i enjoy all friendship

there are infinite fucking sources of creative output about male on male friendship

and female friendship gets fuck all

reblogging as this is one of the things you should know about me

(Source: mercy-misrule)

innerpalindrome:

This was one of the most disappointing elements to me, because ATLA was a very feminist series that carefuly avoided a lot of common sexist pitfalls while creating a large and varied cast of empowered women who could choose to embrace or reject femininity to any degree without being treated as less for it. It wasn’t perfect, but it did a damn good job with the ladies. LOK…was really problematic on this level.

Let’s look at a few points:

- There is not a single significant female character over the age of ten who hasn’t had to compete with another woman for a guy. This plays into that gross old stereotype that women need to view each other as rivals and competition, and prevents strong relationships between women from forming. Hell, Pema even encourages this behavior and Korra follows it. Even worse, Korra only feels guilty about kissing a taken guy when his brother finds out. Asami? Who the hell cares if Asami got hurt! Women are supposed to hate each other, right?

- Femininity is treated as inferior. Asami is easily the most feminine of the cast, and Korra judges her for it and thinks she’s ‘prissy.’ She doesn’t earn Korra’s respect until she shows that she has a traditionally masculine interest in racing cars. Until that point, Korra acts like a total brat around her, making faces behind her back, assuming the worst of her, being ungrateful and rude and hostile when Asami had never been anything but nice to her. This plays into the ‘other women as competition’ trope, but Asami has to do things that are unfeminine to make Korra be even remotely civil to her. It should not fucking matter if Asami wanted to take her shopping instead of car racing. And Korra’s judgement of her really isn’t treated as problematic! The most you get is, ‘don’t judge the girly girl, because maybe she does non-girly stuff too!’ Bullshit. There is nothing wrong with enjoying feminine things, and Asami certainly isn’t less for it.

- There aren’t any really strong female relationships. The best we get is Korra and Lin, but this is vague and poorly developed. Hell, they bond in episode six and then hardly interact until the finale. I have a hard time buying this relationship. Korra and Asami is even weaker; as previously mentioned, Asami has to earn a teaspoonful of Korra’s respect and friendship by showing her something masculine. Korra is decent to Asami for all of five minutes when she tells Mako to go to her, and then she appears to forget that Asami exists as anything more than the person who drives the car. They never talk, they don’t even say goodbye to each other in the finale. Calling that a friendship is downright laughable. Korra gets along with Pema, but the only time they actually really talk involves Pema indirectly encouraging Korra to ‘steal’ Mako. Similar with Korra and Tenzin’s girls; I can’t recall the three of them ever talking about anything other than Korra’s love life.

- The only main protagonists to lose their bending were women. We are given physically strong women, but it really undermines it when they have their power taken away and, even worse in Korra’s case, have to be saved by a man. The ending was downright insulting; we’re expected to read Korra as a strong, independent woman, but in the last episode she’s more of a damsel in distress who has her happy ending given to her by a man without having to work for it herself.

I’m hoping the second season will be less gross on this level, but my hopes are just not very high at the moment.

This is a really good breakdown of a lot of my issues with LOK.

I’m really sick of the trope where women compete for men with each other and I was absolutely beside itself when it happened not once but twice in LOK. It was just plot device-y and unnecessary. Bryke, I know you like your love triangles, but there’s a way to do that shit without being gross and tossing around phrases like “spending his life with the wrong woman”, jfc.

And the femininity thing bothered the hell out of me. Right now the fandom is pretty good about it (or the fandom I see, maybe there’s people beyond my dashboard and tags who are still absolute dicks), but when Asami was introduced I saw a lot of people being jackasses about the fact that she wore makeup and shit, and it was really annoying. I didn’t like seeing the show reinforce that. I desperately want this to be rectified sometime in the next three books. People almost never take femininity seriously, and LOK apparently doesn’t, either.

That was a really huge blow for me because I had a lot of internalized misogyny when I was younger, and Avatar was one of the things that helped me overcome it. I had hoped that LOK would serve the same purpose, especially since it has a female lead, but all it did was reinforce the notion that you can only be taken seriously if your femininity is balanced out with masculine traits.

And the lack of strong relationships between the female characters was absolutely heartbreaking. I don’t really have anything further to say there.

I actually didn’t notice that the only major protagonists to get their bending taken away were women until now but damn. That’s.. a pretty major blow.

Damn, LOK. What the fuck happened.

callmekitto:

this comic is obvs a parody

no one remembers to use those cards

nahchillhomebro:

Bolin is the cartoon embodiement of every nice guy you’ve ever turned down. Please please please stop reblogging photosets of him saying “omg Bolin is so perfect” and “omg be real”  because if he was real you’d shit on his soul just like Korra did..

akitron:

albinwonderland:

damnlayoffthebleach:

If you are a white girl, a black girl or a black boy, exposure to today’s electronic media in the long run tends to make you feel worse about yourself. If you’re a white boy, you’ll feel better, according to a new study led by an Indiana University professor.

Nicole Martins, an assistant professor of telecommunications in the IU College of Arts and Sciences, and Kristen Harrison, professor of communication studies at the University of Michigan, also found that black children in their study spent, on average, an extra 10 hours a week watching television.

“We can’t deny the fact that media has an influence when they’re spending most of their time — when they’re not in school — with the television,” Martins said.

Harrison added, “Children who are not doing other things besides watching television cannot help but compare themselves to what they see on the screen.”

Their paper has been published in Communication Research. Martins and Harrison surveyed a group of about 400 black and white preadolescent students in communities in the Midwest over a yearlong period. Rather than look at the impact of particular shows or genres, they focused on the correlation between the time in front of the TV and the impact on their self-esteem.

“Regardless of what show you’re watching, if you’re a white male, things in life are pretty good for you,” Martins said of characters on TV. “You tend to be in positions of power, you have prestigious occupations, high education, glamorous houses, a beautiful wife, with very little portrayals of how hard you worked to get there.

“If you are a girl or a woman, what you see is that women on television are not given a variety of roles,” she added. “The roles that they see are pretty simplistic; they’re almost always one-dimensional and focused on the success they have because of how they look, not what they do or what they think or how they got there.

“This sexualization of women presumably leads to this negative impact on girls.”

With regard to black boys, they are often criminalized in many programs, shown as hoodlums and buffoons, and without much variety in the kinds of roles they occupy.

“Young black boys are getting the opposite message: that there is not lots of good things that you can aspire to,” Martins said. “If we think about those kinds of messages, that’s what’s responsible for the impact.

“If we think just about the sheer amount of time they’re spending, and not the messages, these kids are spending so much time with the media that they’re not given a chance to explore other things they’re good at, that could boost their self-esteem.”

Martins said their study counters claims by producers that programs have been progressive in their depictions of under-represented populations. An earlier study co-authored by her and Harrison suggests that video games “are the worst offenders when it comes to representation of ethnicity and gender.”

Other research is starting to show the impacts of other kinds of entertainment sources, such as video games and hand-held devices. It indicates that young people are becoming creative at “media multitasking.”

“Even though these new technologies are becoming more available, kids still spend more time with TV than anything else,” Martins said.

Interestingly, the young people were asked about their consumption of print media, but the results were not statistically significant.

Martins conducted the research while she was completing her Ph.D. at the University of Illinois, as part of a larger longitudinal study done with her co-author, Harrison. They sought out certain school districts in Illinois because of their diversity, but African-Americans were the predominant minority group.

BRHood: WHAT’S THIS? A STUDY DONE TO SHOW JUST HOW DEVASTATING A WHITEWASHED MEDIA CAN HAVE ON POC’S SELF ESTEEM? REALLY?

I FOR ONE, AM SHOCKED

i would have never known without this article

(Source: sparkamovement)

fullfrontalalchemist:

rampaigehalseyface:

sharkieboo:

two—dee:

THIS

sad

Huh. Making assumptions and stereotypes about all women ever based on one character written by two men*. Way to be.

*Although Bryke is epic

BOLIN IS NOT A NICE GUY (TM), BOLIN IS JUST A GUY WHO IS REALLY NICE!

FUUUUCK I HATE EVERYTHING STOP THIS BULLSHIT

(Source: the--cats--meoww)

meggannn:

the more I think about it, maybe Korra’s mocking disdain for Asami’s ~girly~ things is actually to make a strong point about them?

I know this is a big thing in the fandom right now, how a lot of people aren’t happy with Korra for saying what she did and Bryke for including it, and it struck me the wrong way too — not just because, well, it’s not fair of her to treat Asami like that (or think that way in general) but also because Bryke has proven in A:tlA that that’s the wrong way of thinking five years ago:

• Ty Lee was “girly” but she was still a fantastic fighter and kicked ass
• Suki specifically said “I am a warrior, but I’m a girl, too,” to prove that those things aren’t mutually exclusive
• Toph and Katara had an entire makeover session in “The Tales of Ba Sing Se” where Toph discovered ‘well hey, maybe I don’t really like this stuff all the time, but it’s not really so bad, to each their own and all that’
• hell, Sokka even likes shopping!
• and Aang likes making jewelry!

so having already written those characters and made those comments in the original show, I was kind of alarmed that Bryke would go down the Taylor Swift/”she’s miss hoity-toity rich girl” route, until I thought that maybe they’re trying to… prove a point?

given Korra’s upraising, I’m not all that surprised she’d think of Asami’s “girlishness” as a weakness; she was raised to think that strength and power and fighting is what’s going to matter the most in the world, and it isn’t after she sees Asami’s skills on the racetrack that she thinks there may be more to her than meets the eye. and then, of course, Asami explains that she also knows how to fight pretty damn well, which gains her even more respect in Korra’s eyes.

so I think Korra’s comments are supposed to do a few things aside from piss off the gender-sensitive members of the audience? I think they’re meant to 

• prove how much Korra needs to learn about the world
• have her realize that what works for others to be “female” doesn’t necessarily have to work for her
• understand that there’s no right or wrong way to be a woman* as long as you’re comfortable with yourself and happy being who you are (and if you don’t like it, you’re always allowed to change)

I think all this was also kind of addressed when Korra went to the bathroom at the Sato mansion and there was that little scene when she tried using the powder next to the sink. she actually, like, gives it a shot, which to me says that even if it’s a small step, now she’s a little more willing to try being “feminine” now that she understands it’s NOT a bad thing — but, of course, when that ends in utter disaster and powder is absolutely everywhere, it’s clear she’s decided “oh shit, not for me, not for me,” and that’s okay too. so it’s fine, honestly, if Korra isn’t the type of person who wants to wear makeup; what makes me feel a bit better is that she actually gave it a shot after seeing how awesome and confident and cool Asami is despite/with it. not to say that Korra’s feeling insecure, but I like that she tries it out to see for herself instead of judging Asami strictly based on her appearance and attitude now. now even if Korra doesn’t like that “girly” stuff, at least she’ll be a little less quick to condemn it?

also, for a lot of the kids in the audience, looking at Asami at a first glance, they’ll probably judge her just like Korra: all that makeup and girliness is something they’ll automatically see, and tbh they’ll most likely view her the same way Korra did at first. so there’s Korra, the protagonist, who agrees with them and looks down on Asami’s makeup/clothing/attire… but then Episode 7 happens, in which Asami turns everything around and makes a point that just because you’re traditionally feminine doesn’t mean you’re useless or thoughtless. this is Korra’s story, and we’re supposed to follow her thoughts and her journey as her experiences change how she thinks about the world and the people around her; Asami’s just something she doesn’t (yet) understand, but I think as they’ll become friends we’ll see more of Asami being her wonderful self to further change that ‘feminine = bad’ mindset. and hopefully the audience, through Korra, will see more of a gradual shift in Korra’s views, and start to view Asami in a more positive light as well, not despite her femininity, but also because it’s a part of who she is and she likes it.

so in short — I’m irked about those anti-femininity comments too, don’t get me wrong, but I think they’re there for a reason? I think they’re purposefully being set up to be revoked and dismantled later. if that makes sense…

yeah this is kind of what I was getting at with my last post about Korra and Asami even if I never outright stated it. ia, ia. glad you share my optimism, Megan ;_;