I don’t want people who have been sexually harassed to feel like they’ll be met with suspicion when they share with me.
I don’t want to replicate the societal valuing of rapists and code it as “rights”.
I want those who are survivors, like me, to know that their words are valued and that their pain and struggle is being taken seriously, that I’m not the 100th person to tell them that they’re being hysterical or that I need to see a full rape kit and see video of the actual harassment to believe them, because I know that proof of rape and harassment is so hard to come by.
If I support someone who says that they’ve been raped or sexually harassed and they actually haven’t - fine. I’m okay with that because the alternative is sending a message to all of the people who have been assaulted.
Skepticism is saying “I don’t trust you.”
Skepticism is saying “Your pain isn’t proof”
Skepticism is saying “Until I drag your personal history and account of the events through the mud, I am not satisfied.”
I am not willing to send those messages. By supporting any accusation of rape and sexual harassment, I know I am sending a message to rapists and harassers:
Run. Delete your online presence. Pull the covers over your head. There are people who know what you’ve done and are here to hold you accountable.
all of this