there are actual people out there who think that complaining about being sexually harassed is the same damn thing as bragging about one’s body

see also: rape culture

pheonee:

ryface:

bananasarenotinyourpocket:

opaul:

imaginarydimensions:

Okay as far as I’ve understood this roundhouse kick at Wally is about him flirting all the time? since the Legend of Korras dude Bolin also flirts, but in a gentleman way? Right?

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ok

i’m really tired and angry so a lot of this may come off less coherent and more rude than i would like and for this i apologise

but heres the dealio

arguments like this fail to take into account:

• age is not an excuse
• “it’s normal” is not an excuse
• neither is “everyone does it”
• it’s “normal” for people to use “retarded” and “gay” as pejoratives but that doesn’t make it okay
• it’s “normal” for hollywood to whitewash things when they get film adaptations but that doesn’t make it okay
• wally has obviously been conditioned (like most other cis males his age) to think that behaving like he does around women is okay but that doesn’t mean it’s okay
• also i think there may have been a slight breakdown in communication here so let me make this quite apparent:
• this is not all about wally
• i like wally
• yes, he has flaws and behaves like a jerk sometimes
• but he is a fictional character and in fact the person he is harassing is a telekinetic telepathic shape-shifting martian superhero who could reduce him to a smear with very little effort
• so
• HE IS NOT A THREAT TO HER
• HE NEVER WAS A THREAT TO HER
• unless he becomes evil and tries to set her on fire he will never be a threat to her!
• but
• the fact that he did this to m’gann in complete innocence clearly demonstrates that he would do it to another girl in similarly complete innocence
• he’s not trying to be an asshole
• he’s not trying to threaten or intimidate her
• he does mean well
• but if he flirts aggressively and sexually with some random civilian and refuses to back off because she didn’t say no
• (because maybe saying no is hard sometimes when you’ve been taught all your life to just deal with it and it’s a compliment
• because maybe she’s heard horror stories about guys behaving even worse when you reject them outright
• because maybe a hundred million reasons that aren’t necessarily “she isn’t bothered by it”)
• THAT IS DEFINITELY A PROBLEM
• HOW ‘WELL’ HE MEANS WILL NOT CHANGE THE FACT THAT THE GIRL IS GOING TO FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE
• HOW YOUNG HE IS WILL NOT CHANGE THE FACT THAT THE GIRL IS GOING TO FEEL THREATENED
• he isn’t dropping creepy lines and constantly flirting with m’gann because he’s an asshole or because he knows she won’t have a problem with it
• he is doing all that shit because he genuinely thinks that this is a good life choice
• this
• is
• a
• problem
• for fuck’s sake
• wally’s inability to deal with women respectfully is indeed realistic and it’s a good character flaw which IS addressed in-show and he’s never rewarded for his ridiculous behaviour AND I AM REALLY QUITE HAPPY ABOUT ALL OF THIS
• but when people defend his actions with a fiery passion
• and argue it forward and backward and always try to arrive at “it doesn’t matter because he has good intents”
• that is when i lose it
• because these exact same arguments are used to excuse sexual harassment in real life
• it’s when the BOYS WILL BE BOYS argument evolves from “he’ll be a creepy ass to you at 16” right up to “he won’t take no for an answer at 22”
• it’s when “if you really don’t like it you should say no more emphatically”
• it’s when street harassment is written off as just a form of flattery
• it’s called rape culture
• it all
• fucking
• contributes
• THIS ISN’T ALL ABOUT WALLY
• THIS IS PART OF A BIGGER ISSUE
• HOLY CRAP
• ——!!!!
• fuck
• sorry
• tenzout

AAAALL OF WHAT PHEONEE JUST SAID, SERIOUSLY, THANK YOU.